for ppl who don’t have bpd:

lyonblood:

lovcrboy:

• our trust levels can be very small. it’s hard to trust someone fully unless they consistently show that they care about us. little reminders like “i love you/value you/care about you” can help a lot
• we seek approval. for everything. we cannot do anything without someone’s consent because we are too afraid of being judged for our actions
• at the same time, we can be impulsive and do things without thinking. these things can be considered manipulative, although this is not our intent. they can be seen as “crazy” or “annoying”
• we are not crazy. we are not annoying. we can’t help being the way we are
• for as much as we crave attention, we don’t want to ask for it. we want it to come naturally, and if we have to ask for it we feel like you hate us, because why else would you not text first?
• our self esteem can vary from loving ourselves to death to hating ourselves to the very core, often within the same day or even hour. we can think we’re the hottest thing, but minutes later one flaw leaves us thinking we’re the ugliest thing on earth. we are o b s e s s i v e about our appearance. we are not vain, we just can’t help but worry constantly. if we think we are ugly, we want to be reminded otherwise
• we can be very sensitive. often little jokes against us that most people would laugh at/think nothing of will hit us deeply and cause us to get depressed or emotionally scarred for hours at a time
• we take pride in our interests, and judging them or making fun of them hurts us a lot
• we can go from valuing someone to hating them over one small flaw in their character. we have trouble distinguishing someone acting up once from being a horrible person
• we get attached VERY quickly. someone simply being nice to us can cause us to think we’re in love with them or that this will be the person we’re gonna marry. we interpret the smallest things as flirting too. this person can be known as our “fp” or “favorite person” and they usually cause us to be obsessed with them or have strong mood swings over them. we interpret things like not replying in a few minutes, lack of emotion in text or simple not wanting to talk as them hating us. it’s a good time
• if we apologize a lot it’s because we’re worried you hate us or that we have something to apologize for even if we don’t. if we don’t, remind us it’s okay and that we did nothing wrong
• mood swings are a huge part of every day for us. we range from being at the top of the world to being super depressed in any amount of time. we can be seen as “moody” but sometimes it’s just too hard not to be sad
• we don’t hate you even if we sometimes act like we do. we can lash out for no reason. don’t worry – you’re fine
• we sometimes can’t speak for ourselves as again, we are so afraid of judgement. we are TERRIFIED of anyone thinking negatively of us, so often we just don’t say anything if anyone upsets us bc we don’t want to upset THEM. also if someone raises their voice at us it can be p scary
• we talk a lot :)

This is very accurate and important.